Cav's Place

I seem to be gathering reasons to be really angry over these past few days. Or, better yet, people seem to keep providing me with them. There are three major ones just now, caused by three different people. The first two are friends, or at least people I like to think of as friends, and the third one is related to my previous post. I think I won’t use names when talking about my friends. There are few people I’m talking to with any noticeable frequency and they’ll know who each is about anyway, in case they’ll be reading this.

Before I’ll get to the actual issues, I think I should list the things that anger me the most. I’m talking about the top two, which aren’t related to what happened now, but should put things in perspective. Past the first two, the ranking may depend on my current mood and what has happened to me or what I heard of recently…
As I said numerous times before, the worst thing anyone can do under the current circumstances is have a child. Also applies to getting pregnant and not intending to have an abortion, obviously, but if there’ll be a miscarriage or the baby will be stillborn then I guess no real harm is done. Also applies to adopting children, because this may encourage those who get pregnant accidentally to carry the pregnancies to term. In the end, I don’t care too much why you decide not to have or care for a child, the fact itself is what matters, because having children is the worst single crime possible when the world is as overpopulated as it is. I may agree that certain extraordinary individuals really should breed, but they should first use those extraordinary abilities to come up with and impose a system like the one I keep suggesting (though preferably better). This is the one thing I will not forgive of anyone under the current circumstances.
The second is breaking up with a person who is obviously still very much in love with you and truly desires to continue the relationship. Exceptions to this are if said person is obviously guilty of one of the very few things that I see as potential justification for ending a relationship, such as repeated abuse, or if there was a very clear and specific agreement at the start of the relationship, understood and accepted by all those involved, specifying other conditions for the termination of the relationship. The agreement won’t make me fully accept the situation though, but at least I’ll no longer see it as unforgivable. Because otherwise it truly is unforgivable for just about anyone. The exception to this is, quite obviously, that I can’t really hold the fact that she left me against Andra and, as much as I’d like to think otherwise, I sometimes doubt I’ll be able to really hold the fact that she left someone else since then against her for any significant amount of time either, were I to learn that she did something like this.
Past this point, it gets much harder to rank… If asked, I tend to say that the third problem is getting a job while still in school, because it puts you in the rat race more than anything, it makes you devote pretty much all of your time and attention to things that have nothing to do with your relationships or ideals (or at least with no ideals that I’d care for) and it means you accept the emphasis that our current society puts on money, which harms everyone who may be fighting for something different, including myself. After all, all you need to do in order to fight for the status quo is to not actively fight against it, and there are few, if any, things that say that you’ve surrendered to this society more than this. I guess I could suffer through something like this if Andra was in this situation, though I’d certainly hate it, but not when it comes to anyone else. Still, it’s not something with permanent effects, so I’ll likely get over what happened shortly after the person either graduated, dropped out, quit or was fired.
But neutering a pet is a huge problem as well, and I sometimes have difficulty explaining even to myself why I see it as slightly less evil than getting a job while still in school. Perhaps because it does at least prevent an overpopulation problem, though the problem itself is far less important than the one involving us humans and this method is completely wrong when it comes to dealing with it. Perhaps also because it has less of an impact on society… Either way, I won’t get into it again, did it plenty of times already. I’ll just say once again that I’m waiting for the day when the birth control methods for pets will be similar to the long-term or even permanent ones used for humans, without altering behavior and certainly without taking away any bodily function other than procreation, and that I’ll maintain my firm opposition to the current method and anyone who makes use of it. Once again, I could get over it if Andra’d be in this situation (and I’m quite sure she actually is), though I’d obviously hate it, but it’s a huge problem when it comes to anyone else. Can be forgiven in time, if the person will no longer support the practice, but never forgotten, because the effects can never be reversed.

Moving on to specifics, the first message I received was letting me know that the person in question just got a job. Since she’s still in school and, if her plans will work out, will still be studying for many years to come, I’m sure you can see why that was completely unacceptable. I knew that she was planning to do this, but I certainly didn’t think it was going to happen so soon and hoped she’d change her mind eventually, before actually getting a chance to do it…
A day later, Thursday, I saw the other person posting a message in which she was basically bragging that her kitten was just being neutered. What’s more, after someone replied to point out some of the potential problems with this procedure and ask her to reconsider, she very happily announced that her other cat is also neutered and is perfectly fine. Perhaps I shouldn’t have reacted quite as I did because I had figured out a long time ago that she supported this, but I pretended I didn’t know just to avoid this sort of argument. Lying to yourself always comes back and bites you in the ass, doesn’t it?
As for the third reason to be angry, that came today in the form of Remus Cernea making his “personal opinion” regarding the second round of elections public. He started well, by saying that he urges all his voters to vote as their conscience tells them to, but then moved on to support Mircea Geoana by speaking at length against Traian Basescu. Well, when the candidate that I voted for supports the one that I’m certain is by far the greater evil, I believe I’m quite entitled to feel betrayed. What’s more, there were certain rumors during the campaign saying that he’ll support Geoana and he repeatedly denied them. It would appear that green lies are exactly the same as yellow, red or orange ones. (Romanians should understand that better, sorry for anyone else who happens to be reading this.)