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It would appear that British pupils are advised to have an enjoyable sex life. Despite the many indignant voices which immediately challenged this recommendation, it still might just signal an improvement in the officials’ attitudes towards sex and masturbation, which can only be a good thing.
The detractors are, of course, right when they say that there are plenty of wrong ways to have sex, possibly resulting in pregnancies, STDs or injuries, but that’s not the fault of the act itself. If you’re not careful when it comes to birth control, STD prevention and choosing the person or people you’ll do it with, there will be problems. But that’d be strictly your fault, the problem being not that you did it, but that you did it wrong. You can have good and safe sex, preferably within a solid relationship, and therefore ensure that it will be an extremely beneficial experience in plenty of ways. I really think the beauty of it, when done under certain circumstances, should be emphasized way more, so I’m seeing this as a rather surprising step in the right direction for a change.

Somebody was saying that she’d have been quite happy if they’d have recommended only masturbation, seeing as that is much safer and simpler and also very useful in preparing yourself for sex. I guess that’s a valid point, though there are also a few wrong ways to masturbate, but why stop at the simpler thing? Masturbation will very likely offer you that orgasm, sometimes working even better than sex in that aspect, especially for women, but it won’t offer you all those other components that require another person actually being there with you and doing it together. So yes, it can also be a very good thing, but it’s certainly not better than sex.
Instead of stopping at what is now easier, shouldn’t we try to make it easier for teenagers to have safe and enjoyable sex? Because this very attitude exhibited by all those detractors makes teenagers and young adults avoid approaching the topic and therefore makes them less likely to actually put that knowledge to use, even if they did know how to do it right. After all, you need to get those condoms, birth control pills and whatever else you might want to use from somewhere, right? And that can be hard enough in itself, seeing as we’re talking about something that could be seen as very personal, so when you get the feeling that most other people think you shouldn’t be needing those things in the first place you tend to just do without them, which results in all those pregnancies and STDs…

What I’m trying to say is that we really need a more open attitude towards sex, and that something like this could really be a step in the right direction. People must feel comfortable talking about sex from an early age, because that’s the only way they’re going to get the help they need in order to find the beauty of it while avoiding the risks. Even if they can find out what to do on their own without actually interacting with anyone, seeing as the information is quite readily available, they need to feel that others have a positive attitude towards it in order to communicate. And communication is certainly necessary, both with your partner and with others, such as the pharmacists or doctors you might need to get in touch with in order to keep it safe.