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I keep running into people who claim that being Atheists automatically makes them rational, while those who, as they say, have any sort of religious beliefs are not. I find that to be a very strange statement, seeing as, for all practical purposes, Atheism is a religion like any other. (You probably also noticed that I’m capitalizing the name, as I would for any religion and the associated adjective.) It may be far less unreasonable than most organized religions, seeing as it doesn’t reject proven scientific facts or make impossible predictions only to desperately look for equally impossible excuses when they don’t come to pass, but that doesn’t in any way change the fact that it is based on unproven beliefs regarding religious matters, which is just the definition of a religion.
The fact of the matter is that the only truly rational approach to matters of religion is agnosticism. We do not currently have the capacity to scientifically prove or disprove the existence of a deity or deities, souls or any sort of continuation of life after the death of the physical body. We also have nothing more than unproven and possibly unprovable theories about the appearance of the first form of life or about what was before the Big Bang, if you even assume that the Big Bang theory is correct, which is already a big if. As a result, if you want to be completely rational, the only thing you can say about any and all such matters is that you don’t know and you can’t know the answers. Anything other than that implies having a hypothesis regarding a matter outside of the realm currently covered by science. In other words, it implies having a religious belief.

What’s quite interesting about Atheism is that, even in its most basic form, namely the belief that no deities exist, it could never be proven as correct. Considering the size of the universe, evolutionary models and the capacity for technological development over such long stretches of time, it is in fact extremely improbable that no beings that we would consider as deities, regardless of how they would consider themselves, exist anywhere in it, and that’s even without taking other potential planes of existence into account. (Whether or not they have, or ever had, anything to do with our tiny planet is not the question here, as we are simply talking about their existence.) There is simply no way to prove that something does not exist in the universe other than omniscience, or at the very least omnipresence, and if you had either of those then you would negate your own hypothesis because, based on any definition we are currently aware of, you would be a deity yourself.
If we go further, it becomes perhaps even more unlikely because even the definitions are more and more blurred. For example, what if multiple dimensions and multiple universes existed, as even quite a few scientists claim? Would it not be possible to consider those as different planes of existence? Where do you draw the line? And how could you draw one when current science only deals with a part of the known material world on this one plane? How can you claim it’s rational to completely reject the existence of something that current scientific methods are simply unable to even grasp, much less analyze?
It is said that quantum physics proves that everything is magic. However, no current scientific method can look for anything that could potentially be described as a soul, which implies that no current scientific method can look for anything that requires one, such as reincarnation or astral projection. It is equally unscientific to claim that you can prove that such things exist as it is to claim that you can prove that they do not. The simple lack of hard evidence in favor of a concept does not constitute hard evidence against it, particularly when the subject can’t even be analyzed. And that, in fact, is one potential definition of religion: Something which science cannot disprove. An unfalsifiable theory.

In the end, religious beliefs that do not contradict proven scientific facts, including those that find flaws and loopholes in current scientific theories that could perhaps still allow them to be true in certain contexts, are potentially as valid as scientific hypotheses. I could even go one step further and simply call them religious hypotheses. And I think we need such religious hypotheses because, no matter how rational it may be, agnosticism is very much true to its name in the sense that it doesn’t advance knowledge. You need a hypothesis before you can have a theory, and you need a very clearly proven theory before you can claim that something is known. If you shy away from forming personal hypotheses because the matter at hand is not already known, how could it ever become known?
But here lies the problem: An unproven hypothesis needs to remain personal and not be forced upon others who did not freely choose to believe in it as well. Whether it claims that something exists or, quite the contrary, that it does not, a religious belief, or religious hypothesis, can be beneficial to a person or a group if it is freely chosen and provides them with hope, comfort, empowerment, closure or a sense of purpose. What’s more, it can potentially be beneficial to the whole world if it could somehow open the way to a theory and, ultimately, to furthering knowledge and expanding the realm of science by discovering facts outside its current boundaries. However, it very quickly becomes very harmful if forced upon those who do not freely agree and disempowers, restricts or otherwise harms them without being backed by any solid evidence. And, unfortunately, this is yet another piece of evidence in support of the claim I made in the title of this post, as militant Atheists are just as bad as fundamentalist Christians or Muslims or any others who try to force their unproven beliefs upon others.

Perhaps someday we will learn to be rational enough not to reject clearly proven facts simply because of outdated superstitions, but also to respect each other’s beliefs when it comes to matters that have not been proven one way or the other. Perhaps someday, by doing that, we will make new and currently unbelievable discoveries. As a result, perhaps someday we will directly meet or possibly even become the gods we currently may or may not believe exist. For now, however, it is important not to think we are different, not to mention better, than others who are in fact doing the same things we are. It is important to know who we are, but equally important to focus more on what brings us together than on what sets us apart.

This week’s second post was supposed to be a non-personal one, and actually have one in mind, but I couldn’t get myself to write it yesterday and today I’m alone, so really don’t feel like putting in the three or so hours it’d take me to write it. Let’s hope I’ll manage to write it early next week. Until then, you get another quick personal update, and this time I really mean to make it a quick one.

As the whole world probably knows, the Rapture was once again prophesied, this time for May 21, 2011. Large sums of money were donated and spent in order to announce the event through advertisements put up all over the world. It was supposed to also include a worldwide catastrophic earthquake that would be the beginning of the end, all those who were not saved yesterday eventually being doomed to die five months later. But the day came and went and the number of floating naked fundamentalist Christians, as well as the number of worldwide catastrophic earthquakes, stayed firmly at zero. Although everyone with the slightest trace of cerebral activity knew that would happen, quite a few people were baffled.
It did give me one more reason to plan my next serious post, however, as it has to do with religion. It doesn’t have anything to do with this particular pile of bullshit, in fact being something I meant to write after the topic came up once again on Remus Cernea‘s page on Facebook earlier this week, but it was rather interesting to connect the two. Let’s see if I’ll manage without letting too many days pass…

Moving on to Forsaken World, I finally got the last God’s Trial achievement on Wednesday for Kalee and Thursday for Calad, but still did it with both characters on Friday as well to get them to over 2500 mentor points, so halfway to the second mentor title. As a result, yesterday was the first day without being in any instance, and today the second. I really don’t plan to do another, no matter how much I’m losing because of this. Not that I’m doing much of anything else either, but I’ve been playing this game for some three months now, if you include the short fourth phase of the closed beta as well, and that in itself is quite unbelievable for me, seeing as it’s an MMO game. I probably won’t be playing it at all for that much longer, but I’ve been saying that for a few weeks already.

Last but not least, it would seem that somebody tried to hack an account I have on a dead forum. Noticed a visit to my site from there today and went to check, wondering if that meant there were any new users. The answer is that yes, there is one who even posted a few things. However, what was more interesting, and worrying, was that when I tried to log on I was told that the maximum number of attempts had been exceeded and had to enter a code on top of my password to unlock my account. Now what the fuck was that about?

As I’m starting to write this, it’s been raining for over two and a half hours. Now it’s really calm, but at first it was quite a storm and likely the biggest lightning strike actually happened only about one hour ago. Unlike the first ones, that one was distant, as the thunder needed several seconds to get here, but it was very long, very deep and very loud when it did, quite literally shaking the whole building. And the flash seemed just blinding, though when it happened I was watching a movie, so not exactly looking out the window.
Actually, I think the rain just stopped right now, though it could start again. But that’s hardly a problem as long as I’m inside, seeing as I like to watch rain and storms… As long as my connection holds, at least, seeing as this one caused it to go out for two whole hours. Was actually wondering if some equipment got damaged again and they won’t replace it until tomorrow, if even then, but thankfully that wasn’t the case. Still, connection issues are that much worse now, seeing as I’m not talking to dad at all anymore and so I couldn’t tell him to ask them what’s going on.

No, things aren’t changing. I’m still scared of my own shadow and just rushing past when I absolutely need to get out of my room, all frightened that one of them would at some point try to say something or that some other scary thing would happen. Yesterday I had to run back here and leave food on the kitchen table since they left for a while and I went to grab something to eat, but I heard the key in the door before I was done. And today I just ducked and made myself as small as I could when I went out, thankfully in time to be back before the storm started.
I had certain things I meant to say here, but I can’t. It’s just been too long, so there’s no getting out of this. Five years and close to eight months now since she left and I’m still far from crazy enough to become oblivious to “reality” and just live in dreams and fantasies. So it can’t get any better because time only flows one way and the only thing that could fix everything isn’t going to happen in the future… If what I fear actually did come to pass, even the theoretical chance of that is gone.

I think I needed 30 minutes to write the above paragraph, so let’s just stop there, all right? Today was planned as a rather busy day, though of course still laughable for anyone who actually does anything. But you know what? Fuck you with glass shards glued to rusty metal poles if you think that! I had to go out a little, write a post, do the usual stuff in Forsaken World, write a fair bit more in something else as well, watch that movie to get rid of it and perhaps also submit some more things on MobyGames. So I’m done with the movie and the walk and this is the post, after realizing there was no way I could write the non-personal one I have in mind today. Only partially done with Forsaken World, so let’s hope my connection won’t fail again later. As for the writing and the submissions, let’s see what the night will bring. Did notice lately that it’s somewhat less difficult to write if I do it late at night…
Then again, I actually was busy in every sense of the word on Sunday, when I was alone and decided to make the most of it by finally spraying something on the mold. That involved moving everything towards the center of the room, spraying, cleaning and then moving everything back. The problem, of course, was that the stuff pooled on the floor a little and there was no way there could be enough time for it to dry by the time they got back, so I tried to just wipe a little and then moved the furniture back anyway. Not sure what the result of that will be, but just barely managed to finish in time even so.

Otherwise, right now I’m getting really excited about The Witcher 2: Assassins of Kings, though I still haven’t even played the first one. These are really at the very top of the list of games I don’t want to play pirated, so that makes it quite a problem. Even more so now, when I couldn’t even ask dad for it, not to mention that I’d strongly prefer to just get a digital edition and that’s utterly impossible since I’d really have no way to pay. But if I were to buy it it’d probably have the same fate as the others, which is to say that I wouldn’t even start it for a long time and then abandon it at some point, so let’s just leave it as wishful thinking for now…
Reviewers do make it sound just outstanding though, especially when it comes to the story, the impact and importance of your decisions and the level of maturity of it all. Unfortunately, it does seem to have been rushed to the market too soon, so I’m expecting quite a few patches in the coming months to fix what they can of the issues, not to mention a fair number of actual additions to the game, but at least I trust this developer to actually do all of that, and properly too. And I also trust them to treat the gamers fairly, which is unfortunately more and more of a rarity. Their attitude is, after all, perhaps even more important than the quality of the games themselves when it comes to deciding not to play them pirated.

But I’ve been struggling with writing this for over and hour and a half now and God’s Trial is open, so I’ll rush to Forsaken World to get Calad through it as well, then finish the other things I have to do…

There went another good edition, though I think not as good as last year’s. It would appear that many countries are starting to learn the kind of songs that may have a chance and selecting accordingly, which is a good thing. On the other hand, I wasn’t exactly pleased by the overall show value of this year’s entries, as quite a few seemed to pay little attention to that, especially if you’re to only take what actually happened on the stage into account and ignore the fireworks and pretty pictures.

I’m not sure that Azerbaijan deserved the win this year, but if I’ll listen to it several more times I might end up agreeing. Either way, they could have won in any of the previous three years and I never put them lower than second until now, so it only makes sense that when I put them lowest, if you consider fourth being low, they’d actually win, but I really don’t mind it. They gathered enough Eurovision karma so far to deserve it. The only problem is that I really don’t care for encouraging the Azeri regime, and having them host the next edition could be seen as doing that.
Italy had a song that I could recognize had great musical value, but somebody’d need to really force me to listen to something like that. I couldn’t even listen to it all the way to the end when I went through them after all entries became known. It’s been quite a while since I disliked an entry quite so much. I think the fact that they returned to the competition after so long had a fair bit to say in the amount of points they got too.
Sweden was all right. Catchy, powerful and with a reasonable show value, it had everything required to earn lots of points, but nothing standing out enough to give it a chance to win.
Ukraine had great show value, and in fact was this year’s only entry truly worth remembering because of that. The song was quite good too, but during the semifinal I was focusing almost entirely on the sand painting and had trouble even listening to it. Oddly enough, though I’d think that semifinals put entries that rely on show value at a significant disadvantage, as viewers are no longer surprised by it in the final, it did worse in the semifinal than in the final, being only sixth. I’m quite confused about that.
As for Denmark’s entry, the song itself once again had everything required to earn a lot of points and a good message on top of that, but the lack of any “tricks” to boost its show value into the “good” range dragged it down.

On my end, I decided to change my ranking system a little by allowing for half-point marks, which resulted in 6.5 being used a whole lot and at times making things even less clear than under the old system that made me constantly wonder whether a song deserved 6 or 7. Oddly enough, 6.5 got used a whole lot for the show rating as well, though the old system had very clear specifications as to exactly what deserved each possible show rating, so was more or less inventing conditions as I went along. As a result, I wouldn’t call this year’s ratings properly calibrated, though for the most part they were close enough and certainly made it easier to rank at the end of the show.
Perhaps largely for my own use, so I’ll be able to compare next year, I’ll provide some more detail this time around by also listing the marks I gave instead of just my classification and the actual place in the competition listed between parentheses. You’ll see this additional information after the country name, between parentheses. The first number is the average between the song rating and the show rating, which is the first criteria. The second is the song rating, which is the second criteria. In case my “personal opinion” rating, which I always put in to cover various things that the two main ratings can’t quite include, is not neutral, you’ll see “plus” or “minus” as the third value. The show rating isn’t listed because you can figure it out based on the song rating and the average. As always, if everything is equal, the classification is a result of me trying to quickly compare what I remembered of the songs in question at the end.

1. (4.) Ukraine (7.25, 6.5, plus)
2. (19.) Lithuania (6.75, 7.5, plus)
3. (9.) Georgia (6.75, 7)
4. (1.) Azerbaijan (6.75, 7)
5. (3.) Sweden (6.75, 6.5, minus)
6. (24.) Estonia (6.75, 6.5, minus)
7. (16.) Russia (6.75, 6.5, minus)
8. (5.) Denmark (6.5, 6.5, plus)
9. (17.) Romania (6.5, 6.5, plus)
10. (13.) Slovenia (6.5, 6.5)
11. (22.) Hungary (6.5, 6.5)
12. (20.) Iceland (6.5, 6.5)
13. (6.) Bosnia & Herzegovina (6.5, 6.5)
14. (23.) Spain (6.5, 6.5, minus)
15. (14.) Serbia (6.5, 6.5, minus)
16. (12.) Moldova (6.5, 6, plus)
17. (15.) France (6.25, 7)
18. (18.) Austria (6.25, 6.5, plus)
19. (8.) Ireland (6.25, 6, minus)
20. (11.) United Kingdom (6.25, 5.5, plus)
21. (21.) Finland (6, 6.5, plus)
22. (25.) Switzerland (6, 6, plus)
23. (10.) Germany (6, 5.5)
24. (7.) Greece (6, 5.5, minus)
25. (2.) Italy (5.25, 4.5)

I got Austria and Finland right, was one place off for Serbia, two off for France and Sweden and three off for Azerbaijan, Denmark, Slovenia, Switzerland and Ukraine. On the other hand, at least ten places off for Estonia, Germany, Greece, Hungary, Ireland, Italy and Lithuania. Italy truly deserves a special mention, since I was no less than 23 places off! As I already said, recognized the song’s musical value, but I largely give the song ratings according to how much I personally like the song and this one I didn’t like in the least.
As for the semifinals, I’d have picked Albania, Croatia, Poland and Turkey instead of Finland, Greece, Serbia and Switzerland from the first one and Slovakia instead of Ireland from the second one. Yes, actually had nine of my ten picks make it from the second semifinal. Unfortunately, Slovakia was number two in my classification. Then again, Turkey was number one in the first semifinal…

Now let me briefly explain my top ten picks, since I already said this year’s competition wasn’t as good as last year’s, so there’s no real reason to say something about each of the songs as I did then.
Ukraine had a good song, but a few others were better, so it needed something more in order to really grab my attention and the sand painting certainly did that. As I already said, it was the only entry truly worth remembering because of its show value, making me put it a full point above anyone else in that respect and say that, as a result, it had by far the best overall package.
Lithuania seemed to me to be this year’s typical Eurovision song. A really nice ballad and an outstanding voice made it have no true rivals as far as the song itself was concerned, at least in my opinion, but the lack of a show value meant it had to settle for second.
The Georgian entry was the only remaining “harder” one, so I probably gave it half a point extra because of that and as a result it climbed through the rankings. The rapping part bothered me, but not enough to detract from the fact that it represented genres that I like but are rarely seen on Eurovision.
Azerbaijan did better than in the semifinal, in the sense that the singers slipped up less, but it made no difference in my ratings. In truth, I’d have probably put them third if Turkey would have qualified, as Georgia would no longer have been the only representative of those genres of music, but for once they couldn’t have challenged for the top two positions in my classification.
The Swedish entry gets the “best of the rest” title, as I doubt I’ll be remembering any entry outside the top four for much longer. Already said that it had everything required to get lots of points but nothing to make it stand out, but should also add that I was quite bothered by the lyrics.
Seeing Estonia sixth reminds me that I sometimes don’t agree with my own classification. This is one such situation. I thought the song was just silly ever since I first heard it, but can’t deny that it’s catchy and they at least bothered to do something to give it a show value. Nothing worth remembering, but it was enough to make it end up several positions higher than it would have otherwise.
Russia may well be a second case of not agreeing with my own classification, though not quite so much. The song was all right and, though once again it was nothing worth remembering, they went through some trouble to give it a show value as well. What really bothered me was that he talked to the audience several times during the song, but not enough to make me put it any lower.
Thanks in part to the overall sound, but perhaps mainly due to its message, the Danish entry seemed to me to be the best of quite a long series of pretty good songs that had only a marginal show value, in the sense that there were several people on stage and they didn’t just sit there, but they didn’t do anything worth noting either. In fact you’ll see no less than eight entries that got 6.5 for both song and show from me.
Romania followed in Denmark’s footsteps in every way, including the message, but our entry seemed just a little below the Danish one in every respect.
Finally, I ended up ranking Slovenia as the best of no less than four entries with the exact same ratings because it had fewer things that bothered me than any of the other three.

Since this week’s second post will be about Eurovision, I can easily put in another personal one as the first. And I do have quite a few things to say, though actually writing is quite difficult right now because parents are cleaning or who knows what they’re doing and I keep hearing them outside my door, even with headphones on, so I’m sitting here all curled up…

Yes, that means I’m not feeling any better. If anything, it’s even worse. I’m more and more scared by everything, curl up and need to turn headphones way up when I hear them talk around the house, still rush and dodge when I need to go to the bathroom, fearfully poke out of my room at night to eat and jump at any noise while in the kitchen… Been in damage limitation mode all these years and really got to the point where too much damage has been done even so.
Getting more and more stressed by doing anything with others in Forsaken World as well, so can’t wait to get the last God’s Trial achievement so I’ll stop doing that too and just stick to doing my own thing, even though it’ll basically mean no longer leveling at all, because I need more and more time to unwind after it. More and more scared to say things on the forum as well, though so far I still do and just keep wincing whenever I see another reply being posted on those threads. Still rather surprised that nobody gave me crap in game as a result of disagreements on the forum so far, but it’s probably just a matter of time.

Back to my parents, at least they did leave me alone lately. I think dad actually read my previous post on this issue, though I’m not sure what he understood from it. They haven’t called me over for anything, haven’t tried to talk to me when I rushed to the bathroom and I saw no more notes on the kitchen table at night until last night. But that little note left last night was enough to send me rushing back to my room. Or to my room’s door, at least, because I stopped there and eventually made my way back and very slowly picked it up and read it next to the window, using the streetlight to try to make it out, because for some reason it felt less scary in the dark. It was just something about Micky, but still had me hug my knees on the floor and whimper for a few minutes afterwards.
The problem is that the deadline to submit some papers to donate 2% of my income taxes to an NGO of my choice is Monday. Since I guess I’m still an employee of dad’s firm, I should be doing that, and in previous years I was the one who pressed them for it even though we’re talking about a very tiny amount, maybe some 25 lei, 30 at most, but really can’t think about it enough to choose. Actually, I logged on to my e-mail a couple of days ago to delete the messages that had gathered once again and I saw a few from them, one with that form number as subject, but of course I didn’t read them. I didn’t even read that newsletter I was saying before I considered safe. Just logged on to delete things and that’s all I did. If I was shunning any “real life” issues before, now I’m running away from them as fast as I can and I don’t see how this will ever change again in the future.

Well, it could change if my situation would change drastically, but since that can’t happen… At this point I don’t think anything short of living with her again, but just the two of us alone, and everything going even better than it ever did way back then, would cut it. Even so, I’d probably need to spend the first week in bed with her, neither of us getting out for anything other than going to the bathroom, grabbing something to eat that could actually be eaten in bed and perhaps at most some 30 minutes per day spent on-line. Yes, we’d also have sex some three times per day during that week, but the rest of the time we’d just cuddle and talk… Or maybe just cuddle, so I’ll have a chance to recover at least a little bit from this.
Afterwards, somebody should knock me out and have a doctor check me out from head to toe so when I’ll wake up I’ll know exactly how I stand instead of worrying about things that just frighten me even more and being too frightened to even tell anyone, even the people who couldn’t do anything about it anyway, what it is this time. But I’m trying to not think about that too much before the cuddling part and so far it’s actually helping me feel slightly better when I manage it. Right now I just need to be held for a very long time by someone I feel close to before I’ll even be able to think of anything else… I’d probably spend a week cuddling with any person I ever felt really close to at this point, with no questions asked. It’d stop at cuddling unless she’d also be in some way involved, but even that’d be something. Not that it matters, since that means exactly four people, and I’m not even so sure about the fourth, and all of them have completely stopped talking to me.

Oddly enough, despite being so frightened of everything, I went and bought a few things on Tuesday. That was probably the mean reason why I spent all of yesterday in my pajamas and with the blinds drawn, but there you have it. Been planning it for over a month, but feeling more and more scared made it less and less likely, so I always delayed it. That resulted in me being completely out of three things I needed, almost out of two more and have a third that needed to be replaced long ago, so I decided to see what happens, seeing as asking dad for anything was out of the question. That I actually managed even more than I really meant to really surprised me, though it came at the usual price.
What was nice was that no employees stopped me to inform me of special offers or anything else of the sort anymore and, with one exception that made me wander around for a while until she finally found what she wanted and moved on, I didn’t bump into other people carefully checking out the same things I was, so there was nothing to frighten me even more while I was looking for what I wanted. And then, while looking over the cashiers, I was also able to pretty quickly spot a young woman who struck me as someone I would have relatively little difficulty approaching, so I did and everything went smoothly.
As a result, I got all I went there to get, plus a few things to munch on. In fact, though it may sound odd, I think deciding to treat myself to a Snickers bar helped being able to purchase the rest a fair amount. (The other couple of additional things I got were actually healthy though, as I spent a fair amount of time reading labels and checking out the options.) Of course my hands were still shaking like crazy when I was in front of the cashier, I had difficulty counting my money and felt the need to say something which obviously came out awkwardly even if you were to ignore what I’m sure was an idiotic grin on my face.
Still, after doing that I went straight into the Orange Shop from there without giving myself time to reconsider and recharged my prepaid card as well, since the active period expired again and I thought I might as well. Was shaking even more and also felt the need to explain myself even more, which came out even worse, but at least it was done… Spilled what was left of my money on the floor afterwards, since my hands shook too badly when I was trying to count, but picked them back up, went out in the rain and slowly started to regain my composure… At least no car hit me while I was still too out of it to pay much attention…

As for that mention of OkCupid in the title, it comes as a result of me sending a message to someone I supposedly had a 99% match with. Now huge matches aren’t that uncommon after all the changes they did, so that score has become next to irrelevant, but also had an 85% friend score and 15% enemy score with her, which sounded surprisingly good for someone I had 1558 questions in common with. In addition, the individual match scores listed, for each of the categories that questions are filed under, were also very high, with only one under 80% and a couple even above 90%, and those don’t seem to be modified as the overall score is, so they’re usually quite accurate.
Indeed, there were plenty of important things, both in her profile and in the answers I looked over, as all were public, that indicated we were very similar. But there were also some things that indicated we were very incompatible. There were no less than 422 questions, so more than a quarter of the total we had both answered, listed under “unacceptable answers”! So I looked over the most important ones and, though otherwise I sent a message commenting on parts of her profile, I charged directly towards the one crucial difference between us.
Yes, I got a reply, but it sure proved how much the matching system sucks now. She was surprised by the scores as well, considering the differences, then said she’s not the kind of person I’m looking for, quickly pointed out the important ways in which we’re similar and the biggest problems, threw a direct hit back at my opinion on the issue we disagreed about, then said she’s going to block me because our attitudes and world views are so incompatible that anything else I could send would at best prove unhelpful, and probably quite seriously damaging to her. So it may well be the first person who blocks me on there as a result of something I send, and so quickly too, yet their system said we were almost perfect matches. Really amusing.