Love Language
Stumbled upon this test, so here you go:
The Five Love Languages
| My primary love language is probably Physical Touch with a secondary love language being Quality Time. |
Complete set of results
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Unhappiness in relationships, according to Dr. Gary Chapman, is often due to the fact that we speak different love languages. Sometimes we don’t understand our partner’s requirements, or even our own. We all have a “love tank” that needs to be filled in order for us to express love to others, but there are different means by which our tank can be filled, and there are different ways that we can express love to others.
Fair enough. Certainly the order of the results is the right one, but I think the difference between quality time and acts of service might be a little too small and perhaps the one between physical touch and quality time too great. But that comes from some of the hard choices in the test, places where I’d want both… Or neither… Plus that perhaps a single point in “words of affirmation” would suffice, if the top three things are working well.
Let’s look at it for a moment… There are 30 either-or questions, making for a total of 60 options. Since there are five categories, it means there are 12 options for each one. It also means that each category is paired with each of the others three times. That means I chose the “physical touch” option every time it was available, though it was a hard choice in two or three places, and only chose the “words of affirmation” option when I had to choose between it and the “receiving gifts” option, which makes perfect sense since I hate getting gifts. It also means that I chose the “quality time” and “acts of service” options whenever there was a choice between one of them and one of the bottom two and that I chose “quality time” over “acts of service” two out of the three times. And I know exactly where I chose the “acts of service” option over the “quality time” option: There is a choice between extended trips together and getting help on daily tasks, and I don’t like trips.



